Saturday, March 7, 2009

The Deserted Water

Have you ever wandered to deep forest with only two of your friends , and the forest wild than than forest that exists in the world. Have you ever got kicked in the butt , and then scolded for letting that happen. Have you met with an accident, and your friends filled the hospital room with laughter, strong enough for you to be discharged un-treated. Have you planned everything on your friend's behalf , and then done childish acts to make them follow the plan. Have you went for a coffee with your friend's friend , and then forcing them to leave their date with the girl they were aiming to date , and make them come and sit you with. Have you ever went out delibrately without telling your friends , and taking air out of the wheels so that your friend leaves office and comes home to spend time with you. Have you ever decided for a 10PM movie at 9 PM with no chance of making it to threater by 10 , and forcing your friend to miss the most ancpitated movie. Have you driven a century Kms just to have a coffee because your friend said the name by mistake. Have you ever danced in the drenching rain with your friends. Have you spent a day with a special one making everything for her. Have you burst crackers in your hand. Have u taken a full cracker under your feet because your friend accidently lit it to protect her. Have you given your jacket in chill winter to already insulated friend with a worry she might get unwell. Have you been the last one to entry the reception party of close friend , and ended up washing dishes and contenting with sweet dish. Have you planned and never followed. Have you fought over for a 50 Paise coin with the shopkeeper for 2 hours. Have you spent your birthday in your friends birthday. Have you had a group hug everyday. Have you loved the way the princly treatment you got from your friends. Have you been humble in a relationship and yet so demanding. Have you made friends feel jealous of a type of friend you are. If answer to each of this question is yes , then you must surely be one of me . 
If not , carry on. 
Have you went on overnight trips with friends , and ended on wrong side of city. Have you planned an hour and spent three each time you had a tea break. Have you smoked the life out of you , and tension out of mind. Have you drank the problems with your life directly draining them with friends. Have you been alone in crowd , yet the centre of attraction. Have you had more than single to say you as his / her best friend ( i have a count of 8 who said so ) .... Have you helped and forgot. Have you helped and fogave . Have you helped and still remember. Have you loved someone and not told her . Has someone not loved you and told you. Have you shared a chocolate fantasy n number of times. Have you dared to look up in sky and point to Hunter constellation.
There are many things we need other than above to maintain a friendship. Opening a few points for all my friends who have asked me ... Ajit , this one goes specially for you ( you always will be as special to me , for you made me believe that i am correct in approach towards my friends )
  •  Have you told all your friends they look best today , better than they looked yesterday 
  • Give and Forgive 
  • Lend a helping hand , not only to those who need , but to all your friends.
  • Assure your friends you are always there , and back it up when time comes. 
  • Never expect them to remember the help you did, its human nature for them to forget, but then a true friend would come back , and realise it later or sooner. 
  • A small conversation once a week helps to nourish and deep the roots of friendship
  • Accept the compliments as well as complaints alike from friends. With mistakes and critism we learn
  • Dont think a friend is more special than other , and never ask any in your friends circle to compare your friends. I have been through this worst phase, (though lasted 10 sec ) but i still shrug on the question. 
  • Say truth , and only truth to all your friends , or people you want to be friends with. 
  • Lies has no life , broken mirrors hurt more than missing ones. 
  • Create a alarm , and weekly calender to update them with what u do daily. 
  • Try to loop them , chat to them ,drop mails , call them conference them , ask friends to update , stay in touch 
  • TRUST ME .... make people trust you , and never break that. A broken trust is as bad as broken heart only with the difference heart can still be won back. 
And this post is titled deserted water , because i wanted to water the deserts of friends , to make us all a better person in future ... 
Comments appreciated . 

18 comments:

  1. I wish... I could follow all these...
    But nobdy cn b a perfect frnd lik deepak...
    Thanku Deepak for being such a friend...

    Nd thanks for pen down all these points... I'll try to follow, if not all but atleast some of them...

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  2. Thanks for calling me that perfect friend, but that would be a bit more exaggaration ... anyhow i never leave the credit ... you already have most of those , and u r no less than the perfect friend .

    Next time , write full name Neha ...

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  5. wowwww!!! deepak kitnaah sochtehoN aap??
    u reali carin & lovin....urs blessed friend...ruxeeN :)

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  6. hey Ruxeen .... aka cenah .. aka my beautiful eyed wide smiled long distance close heart friend .... u r above all ... miss u

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  7. Have u ever been a boy n bitched like a gal ;)
    I guess u forgot dat!!
    Have u been on an auction for unrealistic things :)
    I have been..
    N d frnd who accompanied me was u..
    Way to g dude!!

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  8. Yes i missed ... i have been an ear to all of many friends , and heard it all ...

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  9. you know Amrita , your blogs provide more fiction than yr life story ... haaha .. yr life is more of a fiction story :) blog it

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  10. u dont know what difference it makes to me when u write that.
    Really Ashu :)

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  11. Yet another touching write-up !! Learnt a lot from you and going by your friendship manual here, methinks that there is still a long way to go before I can say that I am a good friend too :)

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  12. lalle di jaan ... mera aur bata hai hi kya ... tum kuch dost ho , ghar wale hai , aur kya.
    Ajit its not what we are , its what we become in friendship is what it matters. You have always been very right in your approach towards friendship , per jab shift hi night mein ho to tu bhi kya kare :D :D ... tere upper next one ..

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  13. Hi Alka .. did u like the post ?

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